If you’re struggling with feelings of sadness because you’re social distancing from your loved ones right now, that’s a very normal response during this global pandemic. It’s sad to feel love and be unable to express it – especially with the people we love. Being isolated is not natural to us because we need love in order to feel safe, happy and hopeful. And unfortunately right now, there is a lot of uncertainty in our world. The pandemic has placed many of us in a position of fear. We fear for our children, our health and our future. However, the key to overcoming chronic sadness is to avoid getting stuck in it!
The Covid-19 experience has taken a toll on all of us in every way – physically, mentally, spiritually, financially and emotionally. Some of us have gotten sick, some of us have passed away and all of us have been subjected to feeling disconnected. This is what causes us emotional pain! While social distancing is important to help keep us safe from catching the virus, it’s emotionally hurting those who thrive on the physical expression of love, such as giving and getting hugs and kisses! This lack of human connection makes us feel unhappy, sad – even depressed.
Being “human” means feeling sad and unhappy at times – and it’s safe to say that this is one of those times! So, it’s ok to cry. Let it out! All people cry – parents included! Crying proves that you’re a sensitive, compassionate and empathetic person. These are all great qualities to have, especially as a parent. So don’t feel ashamed for not holding it all together for your children to feel safe. They need to see that their parents are sensitive. This helps them understand life is not perfect and the seriousness of this pandemic. Also, it is very important to express your sadness before it negatively affects your emotional health.
Here are some other healthy ways to help you cope with sadness during the pandemic:
- Avoid suppressing your sadness. Always communicate your feelings to your spouse, trusted friend or other adult family member. (However, please do not share adult issues with your young, impressionable children)
- Find positive ways to reduce stress and raise your energy. Avoid listening to or watching negative social media, stress or fearful news and violent or scary movies.
- Cry happy tears! Laughter is the best medicine for sadness. Find ways to make yourself and your children laugh by watching comedy, family or love-based movies.
- Spend time in nature. It has a unique way of raising your spirit and feeling more peaceful.
- Share physical expressions of love (hugs & kisses) with your spouse, children and pets
- The best way to take your mind off your sadness is by helping someone else. This will make you happy and boost your self-worth. It also makes you a positive role model for your children by teaching them kindness and compassion.
So remember, you can cry, but never give up! Stop feeling alone because we’re all in this together!